Yes, I'm sure that the connection goes out through the VPN.
Whithout VPN connection the homeserver can connect to mailservers on port 25.
The problem occurs only with port 25, all other connections seem to work.
Here is the output of tcpdump, running on the virtual private server, for a SMTP connection (which always failes):
19:21:50.210770 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 108.177.119.26.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190598863 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:50.210825 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 10.8.0.6.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190598863 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:51.209583 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 108.177.119.26.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190599113 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:51.209611 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 10.8.0.6.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190599113 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:53.210162 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 108.177.119.26.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190599614 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:53.210189 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 10.8.0.6.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190599614 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:57.220439 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 108.177.119.26.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190600616 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:21:57.220469 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 10.8.0.6.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190600616 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:22:05.240720 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 108.177.119.26.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190602620 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:22:05.240748 IP 10.8.0.6.53713 > 10.8.0.6.smtp: Flags [S], seq 2057581401, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190602620 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
For comparison the output of tcpdump for a POP3 connection, that works:
19:22:18.639740 IP 10.8.0.6.36159 > pop.gmx.net.pop3s: Flags [S], seq 1280631682, win 14600, options [mss 1368,sackOK,TS val 190605971 ecr 0,nop,wscale 6], length 0
19:22:18.655456 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [S.], seq 2148291562, ack 1280631683, win 28960, options [mss 1460,sackOK,TS val 4086145739 ecr 190605971,nop,wscale 9], length 0
19:22:18.719480 IP 10.8.0.6.36159 > pop.gmx.net.pop3s: Flags [.], ack 1, win 229, options [nop,nop,TS val 190605991 ecr 4086145739], length 0
19:22:18.720108 IP 10.8.0.6.36159 > pop.gmx.net.pop3s: Flags [P.], seq 1:518, ack 1, win 229, options [nop,nop,TS val 190605992 ecr 4086145739], length 517
19:22:18.736362 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [.], ack 518, win 59, options [nop,nop,TS val 4086145760 ecr 190605992], length 0
19:22:18.739371 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [.], seq 1:1357, ack 518, win 59, options [nop,nop,TS val 4086145760 ecr 190605992], length 1356
19:22:18.739395 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [.], seq 1357:2713, ack 518, win 59, options [nop,nop,TS val 4086145760 ecr 190605992], length 1356
19:22:18.739397 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [.], seq 2713:4069, ack 518, win 59, options [nop,nop,TS val 4086145760 ecr 190605992], length 1356
19:22:18.739398 IP pop.gmx.net.pop3s > 10.8.0.6.36159: Flags [P.], seq 4069:5062, ack 518, win 59, options [nop,nop,TS val 4086145760 ecr 190605992], length 993