I found this while googling around.
https://github.com/OpenVPN/openvpn3/blob/master/openvpn/ssl/sslconsts.hpp
It looks like it is being considered at some point at least.
For the time being it looks like my only option is try to arrange for the proxy to have a default rule that sends non SNI connections to the oVPN backend.
I dread to think what other rubbish it might end up with but beggars can't be choosers
Thanks for your help