Ok, so this is not possible on the server side. I found out that it would be so easy to exclude a specific IP: just add "route ip-here 255.255.255.0 net_gateway" to the config file. If only it would be that easy for redirecting ports to the default gateway...
First, I'm using Mac OS X.
I figured here:
http://www.openbsd.org/faq/pf/rdr.html adding a line to
/etc/pf.conf would do the trick but not: "PF ERROR! No ALTQ support in kernel. ALTQ related functions disabled"..
Another could be using
ipfw but haven't found any instructions for that..